Whether you are new to therapy or deep in your practice, you can arrive, breathe, and be met here.
The intention of the Men’s Work is to offer a space to both witness other men in their journey and to be witnessed by men who are present and willing to offer their attention. Your vulnerability, your strength, your goodness, your struggle, your kindness, your needs, your heart, your suffering, your humanity.
My role as facilitator in these spaces is not to lead or to ‘perform therapy’. I arrive as a participant who just so happens to have started these gatherings, able to hold the format and safe space for the group. It was long into my own healing that I began working with my masculinity, sense of what it means to be a man, a father, a husband, and these connections and practices have been an ongoing place for vulnerability and learning for myself.
Group gatherings options are outlined in detail below. All are welcome and encouraged to join.
The Circle
This group meets every third Thursday of the month, serving as a committed and reflective space for men to gather and dive a deeper into their process, their connection, and their engagement in sharing and receiving. The Circle is an open group and all are welcome to join, no matter what’s happening in your life.
The Circle begins with a meditation and arrival practice to ground us all and shake off the day. This is followed by a brief prompt and go-around to check in with each attendee. Afterward, we may focus on a particular man in need of space, time, or support, or we may dive deeper into a particular topic and see what arises through conversation.
There will likely be a Kava serving during the ceremony, which is a nice break to shift the energy. Kava is a mild, mood-elevating root beverage with effects similar to green tea. Maybe two green teas! Towards the end of our time together, we hold a closing ritual to complete the gathering and prepare to return to our everyday world.
All that is needed is to arrive to The Circle on time, do your best to stay present, share if you feel ready, and receive your peers with open ears, mind, and heart.
📍 Revolution Yoga
Every third Thursday of the month
6:00pm–7:30pm
$20 per attendee to cover space fees
2026 Calendar
May 21
June 18
July 16
August 20
September 17
October 15
November 19
December 17
To register, email HoctorLMFT@gmail.com or sign up below.
Walking Talking Men
Walking Talking Men is a nationwide, grassroots group that is committed to offering a free and regular meeting space for men to take a walk together. That’s it! Currently, this group meets once every month for a light hike that lasts about an hour round-trip. No need to register, just show up and join the group.
During the hike, we take a few minutes to organize before setting off and break into pairs. From there we head out for our walk where the discussion continues between you and your partner.
The hike is relatively flat the first quarter with a slight uphill in the second, and then downhill for the last half. Please be mindful of your physical capacity, bring water and snacks as needed, and know you can stop at any point and won’t be left behind. We've got you!
And in case you’re wondering about any of the following:
Walking Talking Men is not therapy, coaching, or men’s work.
There are no fees or costs. We’re not recruiting for any organization.
No one is the expert. Each man is the expert on his own life.
No level of regular participation is required.
Each walk is owned by the men of that walk and sets its own rules, though we broadly suggest each walk consider the following:
No politics
Be yourself
Respect confidentiality
📍 North Parking Lot Off Kawana Terrace
First Tuesday of the month
5:30pm–6:30pm
No Cost
2026 Calendar
June 2
July 7
August 4
September 1 (possible cancellation)
October 6
November 3
December 1
Guidelines & Agreements
Confidentiality — What is shared in Circle stays in Circle. The stories, struggles, and revelations of your brothers are not yours to carry outside this space. Honor that trust absolutely.
Talking Stick — Every man is given uninterrupted time to speak. This is not a space for advice or fixing — it is a space for reflection, honest sharing, and speaking from your own experience. When another man holds the stick, your role is to receive him fully.
Witness and Be Witnessed — One of the greatest gifts we can offer another man is our full, unhurried attention. Allow yourself to be seen, and offer that same quality of presence to your brothers. Neither minimize what you share nor what you receive.
Active Listening — Listen to understand, not to respond. Put aside the urge to problem-solve, compare, or redirect. What a man shares deserves your full presence, not half your attention while you prepare what you'll say next.
I Statements — Speak from your own story and your own experience. Use "I feel," "I notice," "I have experienced" rather than generalizing or speaking for others. Your truth is enough.
No Cross-Talk — When a man is sharing, hold the space in silence. Reactions, commentary, and responses wait until he is finished and the stick has moved. Crosstalk, even when well-intentioned, disrupts the container.
What Happens Here, Stays Here — What Leaves Here, Changes Everything — This is an extension of confidentiality and an acknowledgement of what we take with us. The details stay, but the growth, the insight, and the healing are yours to take into the world.
Respect the Container — Arrive on time, silence your phone, and bring your full self. The circle is only as strong as each man's commitment to it.
Emotions Are Welcome — Grief, anger, fear, joy, all belong here. There is no hierarchy of acceptable feeling. A man need not hold it together in this space.
Right to Pass — No man is ever required to share. Passing the stick without speaking is always honored, without question or comment.
Meet Each Man Where He Is — Come without expectation of where a brother should be in his journey. A man may arrive broken, guarded, euphoric, or numb. None of these are wrong. Our role is not to move him along but to receive him exactly as he arrives.
Honor the Man Who Showed Up Today — The version of masculinity that walks through the door tonight is the right one. A man may show up soft or hard, open or closed, warrior or wounded. Every expression is welcome here. We do not ask a man to perform strength he doesn't have, nor apologize for the strength he does.
☎ CONTACT
hoctorlmft@gmail.com
415-949-0649➤ LOCATIONS
California, Nevada, and Washington State
Virtual sessions only.